year of the boss: how to get the life you want now

 Photo Credit: Allef Vinicius

Photo Credit: Allef Vinicius

Guys, I’M BACK. 

December is always a hectic month with the holidays, but it was even more chaotic in my world this year because I a) turned 30 – post about that later – and b) officially took over the controller position at my full-time job the day after Thanksgiving.  Needless to say, my last month of 2016 was filled with late work nights and holiday/birthday parties, so unfortunately, the blog had to take a back seat for a while; however, my world has since calmed down (a little), and I’m ready to go full steam ahead with Britt & the Benjamins in 2017. Get excited.

Now while I was on my little blog hiatus, I focused most of my time on my new position at work. And as most of you who have been promoted know, that transitionary period is a b#%&! – you’re still managing some of your old responsibilities while trying to train someone else on how to do your previous job while doing and learning your new role.  Oy vey. 

However, as draining and stressful as this past month has been, it has also been one of the most empowering. I now have to manage 10 people and have no management experience, but I’ve figured it out. I’ve had questions asked that I don’t know the answer to, but I’ve figured it out.  I have been thrown in situations where I have had absolutely NO idea what the hell I’m doing, but I’ve figured it out.  And metaphorically being thrown to the wolves and learning/surviving brings a certain sense of accomplishment and confidence that I wasn’t expecting out of this position. And I love it.

Thus, the experience of this past month has made me deem 2017 the Year of the Boss.  And not “boss” in the literal sense of the term but “boss” as in “I’m going to stop being scared of the unknown and take some leaps.”  Maybe even some immense ones.  I want to determine the path my life takes, and I don’t want a fear-induced excuse to hold me back.  Because here’s the thing we all need to realize:

We are the person solely responsible for our health, wealth, and well-being.

Plain and simple. Will the outside world test us? Absolutely. Will there be days where no matter how hard we try, we won’t be motivated/hit our goals/be happy? Yes. Everyone has those days.  But we all have to be dedicated to being proactive in getting what we want instead of allowing fear to hold us back and push us to just react to the situations around us.  Being proactive is how you change.  Being proactive is how you make progress.

In this Year of the Boss, I plan to own it.  My job, my blog, my health, my happiness.  It is on me to find success in those areas, and I aim to do just that. And I want you to do this same.

If you want to join me in owning yourself and your life this year, then I urge you to pick one thing, just one thing, that you want to work on to increase your quality of life.  It could be what we focus on here at Britt & the Benjamins (your financial situation or career), but it could also be the relationship with your spouse, your faith, your health.  I don’t care what it is – I just want it to be improved by 2018. 

How do we make that happen? How do we ensure we aren’t in the same position on December 31st and that our goal doesn’t get lost in the shuffle of day-to-day life? We schedule time. Yep, a can’t miss it, non-negotiable meeting with yourself every day or week (depending on your goal). If it’s Thursday at 8pm and your girls want to go out for a drink during that scheduled time, well, sorry.  Can’t make it.  You must give that time priority in order to succeed at this goal.  Will it suck sometimes? Oh, for sure.  But at the end of the year, will you be more disappointed in missing out on drinks that Thursday or not spending more time improving your marriage? Or losing weight? Or getting out of debt?

I am so excited to dive into the Year of the Boss - to really defeat the fears that have been holding me back and conquer those things that have been on my wish list for too long. I hope you all will join me on this year of transformation, and if you want to keep being inspired, think about signing up for my bi-weekly newsletter.  Being part of a community always helps keep the motivation up, and I’d love for you to be a part of ours!

 Photo Credit: Chad Madden

Photo Credit: Chad Madden