the inside scoop: my year in review (2017)

The intro to “End of Year” posts are perpetually difficult for me.

I always want to highlight some of the best and worst of the year, like linking to some adorable puppy video and making a joke about how we’re lucky North Korea hasn’t bombed us yet.

But as I was sifting through the memories of 2017 all I could come up with was the bad. The lows. The worst. All events I really didn’t want to highlight but that seemed to be ingrained in my life as the major world events.

why you're not accomplishing your goals (& how to start)

It’s the beginning of a new season in your life. You’re committed to getting more clients, making more money, having more of an impact in your community. You’re setting your goals, your intentions, making your “must accomplish” list.

Flash-forward: It’s the end of the month. It’s halfway through the year. It’s December 31. Those goals you set? Halfway done or never touched. No progress. What gives?

reclaiming your day: the #15MoreMin challenge

Ever feel like you’re stuck in one of those rooms where the walls are closing in on you, and there’s nothing you can do but watch them inch closer and closer?

Yeah, that’s how I felt about a month ago.

Work had slowed down from the 120mph pace I was running this past winter (thank you, Jesus) but only by about 20 mph or so (a little more help, Jesus). The blog was taking up most my nights and weekends, what with trying to keep up with the week-to-week requirements, grow my audience, AND work on a project I hope to launch in 2018. On top of that, the Keithster and I were house-hunting for rental properties and officially moving him into my place at the end of July.  Oy – f#$%ing – vey.

the #1 reason your money is a mess (& how to change that)

I don’t particularly enjoy talking to people at the gym. Call me an a$$hole, but I find that when I’m between the treadmill and weight racks, it’s my time to de-stress from my day.  And normally random conversations don’t really aid in that, which is why it was so strange for me to find myself talking to a random guy for 20 minutes in between my lunge sets.

Okay, maybe not a random guy, but more of a “we-went-on-one-date-and-then-ran-into-each-other-at-the-gym-two-years-later” guy. But that’s beside the point.

the 2 most dangerous words for you & your money

When you were growing up, you probably had people tell you to speak a certain way. One that comes to mind was: “Say: ‘Pardon me?’, not ‘Huh?’ or ‘Eh?’.”

People knew that what you said could change the way others look at you. More recently, I’ve realized that the words I use influence many of my own behaviors. If I can sum up one profound lesson I’ve learned this past year it’s this:

Words Have Power

how to have your cake and eat it, too: a lesson in managing an overwhelmed life

I remember waking up feeling like a failure.   A tired, stressed, defeated failure.

No major event had happened to spur this feeling. I hadn’t lost my job or ended a relationship or put on weight. Instead, it came to me in small enough pieces so that I had no idea what I was heading towards until the last puzzle piece was in place.

the 20-something checklist: what you need to do now to kill it in your 30s

I hit my 4th decade back in mid-December, and I’ll be honest, I thought I’d feel differently about turning 30 than I do.  Everyone says it’s a milestone birthday, a turning corner to official adulthood.  Women start buying wrinkle cream and hitting the gym feverishly, men start doubting their success and their career path, and everyone just wonders how the heck they flew through their 20s so fast.

But I felt none of that.  I wasn’t dreading the day I turned 30, I wasn’t worried about looking older or feeling like I had wasted time.  And you know why? Because I had used my 20s to build a life I love. I had done the work, and I can’t tell you how happy I am with where I am now.  Was the journey always fun? No. Is everything perfect now? No.  But I truly feel like I found a great balance between fun and responsibility in my 20s, and now, it’s laid a good enough foundation for me to do the same in my 30s. But on a bigger and better scale. 

year of the boss: how to get the life you want now

Guys, I’M BACK. 

December is always a hectic month with the holidays, but it was even more chaotic in my world this year because I a) turned 30 – post about that later – and b) officially took over the controller position at my full-time job the day after Thanksgiving.  Needless to say, my last month of 2016 was filled with late work nights and holiday/birthday parties, so unfortunately, the blog had to take a back seat for a while; however, my world has since calmed down (a little), and I’m ready to go full steam ahead with Britt & the Benjamins in 2017. Get excited.

leaving the comfort zone: how to stop settling and start demanding more

I’m going to start this post with a moment of honesty question for all of you:  How many of you right now are settling?  Are ok with being content instead of being happy? Choose to ride the carousel because the roller coaster is too scary to get on?

Been there. And I think it’s a human experience for all of us to go through stages of “settling” throughout life.  Let’s be real: change is hard. The unknown is scary, so we decide to remain in the comfort of the bubble we have built instead of running straight out of into the world of possibilities. Because those possibilities could project us forward or backward.  And the fear of ending up in a spot worse than where we are now is legitimate.

why i don't want your financial goals

Remember as a kid how you liked a certain sports team because your parents liked that sports team? Or you thought Clinton was going to ruin this country because your parents thought Clinton was going to ruin this country? Or basically any opinion you had mirrored theirs because they were your center of influence for 18 years?  Yeah, that happened to me a few months ago.  Just not with my parents.

Almost everywhere you look in the blogging world, the main goal of writing a blog (besides helping readers get their s#!& together) is to make enough money to say adios to “working for the man” and hello to working for yourself. Which is great. I absolutely get it. And for a while, I thought that was what I should be chasing, too.